Wonder Child: The ECE Lab

Hello to all my wonderful parents and fellow educators! As an ECE with over 20 years of experience in Canada, I have witnessed countless "tug-of-war" matches over a single wooden block or a plastic shovel. I remember a mother at my centre looking completely exhausted as her toddler shouted a thunderous “No, MINE!” at a peer. She whispered to me, “Is my child becoming selfish? I’ve tried so hard to teach them to share .”  I gave her a warm smile and a reassuring pat on the shoulder. My dear friend, your child is not being “bad” or “selfish”; they are simply reaching a major developmental milestone in self-awareness. Think of it as a young child discovering that they are an individual with their own belongings. Today, let’s explore this challenging yet completely normal phase through the lens of early childhood development and discover how we can guide our little ones toward their first successful friendships with patience and empathy. 1. The Egocentric Stage: Why “Mine!” Is a ...

Hello to all my wonderful parents and fellow educators! One of the most common moments I observe in early childhood settings happens during transitions or moments of frustration. A toddler suddenly throws a toy, refuses to clean up, or cries harder the moment an adult says “No.” In those situations, many parents instinctively respond with firmer commands, only to find themselves pulled into an exhausting power struggle. I still remember one little child at our centre who became deeply upset during clean-up time. The more adults repeated “No more toys,” the more overwhelmed the child became. Instead of continuing the back-and-forth, I calmly offered two simple choices: “Would you like to put away the cars first or the blocks first?” Almost immediately, the child paused, looked carefully at both options, and quietly chose the blocks. I can still remember the mother’s surprised expression as she softly said, “That actually worked?” The truth is, positive redirection is not a complicated p...

Hello to all my wonderful parents and fellow educators! One thing I truly want parents to remember is this:  every behaviour has a reason behind it.  Sometimes that reason is frustration, exhaustion, sensory overload, hunger, jealousy, or simply the overwhelming feeling of wanting connection and attention. In early childhood settings, I often meet parents who feel overwhelmed when their normally sweet child suddenly has a meltdown. In those moments, it can be easy to assume a child is being “bad” or intentionally difficult. However, young children are still learning how to communicate complex emotions and unmet needs. I still remember one child at our centre whose mother had recently welcomed a new baby. The older child eventually gave the baby a small shove to climb back into their mother’s arms. This was not an act of malice; it was a child expressing a deep need for emotional security.  Behaviour is communication long before children have the emotional vocabulary to ex...